The Defectors

Howdy, everyone. I know, I know it’s been a while I posted anything hereπŸ˜€. I have a lot going on in my life right now (mostly good things) that’s thrown my head off-balance 😁 plus my heads not always in the right place. Don’t worry I’ll be fine with time.

So unto the topic for today. The word “Defectors” is rarely used on a day to day basis. It’s a military word, usually used in war times.

You know growing up in my hood with my guys (they know I still love them even now), a few of my boys were wild already. We knew the bad boys. As we grew up, they became “badder” “Badoo snare”, their wings spread 😁. We expected that 😁. No surprises there.

But the remaining boys, most of them were the most moral boys you’d ever see. You know; obedient to parents and teachers, law-abiding citizens, regular churchgoers (usually choir people) etc.

Good boys and girls.

Last week, I met some of them. We hung out, you know, chilling. I got to find out these same guys, not all of them though, are now really wild, opposite to their former selves – smokers (of weed), womanisers, fraudsters, lacking regards and respect etc.

I know change is the only constant in life, I’ve changed and expected some of my friends to change of course, but not the way they have and I wonder why?

Peer Pressure? Parental pressure?

When Peer pressure sets in we usually fall – drinking alcohol to show say “you Sabi” or “to feel good” (whatever that means), ending your virginity, sleeping with different girls/boys to show say “you no be novice”, getting money via any means necessary to feel among and ease your depression.

This applies to both boys and girls.

It’s saddening.

1Tim. 1:18-19 talks about not leaving the faith and good conscience when the battle comes, as some already have done (left).

The battle (of the mind) will definitely come. Would we still be with good conscience? Or will we defect?

That’s tough.

Are there times I’ve wanted to break my principles and “feel among”?

Of course, I’ve been tempted to delve in.

I’d be lying if I told you it didn’t cross my mind to join and “cruise”. Especially when ‘friends’ and people around me have fallen in.

Unfortunately, I, Jeff, have easy access to all these “opportunities” – sex, weed, money via any means (yahoo yahoo to be specific) etc.

But I have principles I believe in & hope to stick with forever. Principles I want friends and people around me to follow. Principles I “Know” (of a surety) will yield results and fruits for me, my kids and their kids if “I” adhere to it.

Some friends ask me how do I do it? How I have I stayed “good” (though I believe nobody is Good, only God is) all these years. To which I reply “It’s God o and my drive (principles and goals)”

Pastor Biodun Fatonyibo (PB) was preaching the other day saying;

“in church and the world today, there are not many (fatherly) examples out there for young people (men) to follow”.

This hit me hard.

I’ve vowed to myself to be that example people around me would want to emulate. Influencer. Change agent. As well yielding fruits and results (academically, financially, career-wise, mentally, maritally etc)

It’s easy to say, but extremely tough to do. Trust me I know.

I do this for God first and then I do this for me, my wife, kids and grandkids both unborn. I strongly believe that to influence the world to do better and become better you gotta start with yourself first and then your family before talking about your community and the world.

We have to become better so we can bring back these defectors to the right side of things.

That’s what I aim to do with my defective friends.

I need more of God, wisdom and results to do this. We all do.

God help me. God help us.

Conclusively, We (kingdom citizens) were meant to be the salt of the earth, change agents, influencers, to influence others and NOT to become influenced.

Ephesians 6 talks about putting in the armour of God that ye may be able to withstand the evil day and having done all to stand… using the shield of faith (to shield the mind from Evil and depressive thoughts) to quench the fiery darts of the Wicked (satan – when he brings those Evil and depressive thoughts) and the sword of the spirit which is the word of God (to attack those Evil and depressive thoughts)

God’s word – The Bible – is the Book filled with hope and instructions on how to lead a life of good success (Josh. 1:8).

You can start with Luke and proverbs If you rarely read it and want to start.

I wrote something about how hard it is to live right a while back “living right is hard“. Check it out guys and tell me what you think via comments below or WhatsApp.

I pray God will help us not to defect. Amen.

Au revoir people πŸ˜‰

Till next time.✌🏾

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